Challenging Communication with your Conflict Avoidant Couples
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I recently sat in my office listening to a couple named Bill and Sally describe twenty years of conflict avoidance and intimacy avoidance. Their communication was packed
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A Dialogue for Individual Goal-Setting with Conflict-Avoidant Couples
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When working with couples within The Developmental Model, it’s crucial to help partners set self-focused, individual goals to support the process of differentiation. This presents more of
Principles & Techniques for Working with Conflict Avoidant Couples
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In my last post, I shared 4 key insights that can help you lay the groundwork for counseling couples who shy away from conflict. In looking at
Understanding the Hidden Dangers of Conflict Avoidance
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You’ve seen the pattern before. A couple comes to you, seeking help with tension that they just can’t understand or resolve. As you’re working to build openness
Conflict Avoidant Couples Grow by Learning to Handle Emotional Intensity
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When a couple with a long-term conflict-avoidant history comes to see you, change is often excruciatingly slow. You may wonder, “Am I being effective?” Here is why
Conference Highlights from the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium
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As I fly home from the vibrant energy of the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium in Washington, DC, I’m reflecting on what an exceptional conference it was. I spent
Conflict avoidance comes in many forms.
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Conflict avoidance comes in many forms. Do you recognize these? 1. Some couples avoid so many issues that you feel enormous tension just sitting in the room
Working with Couples Who Are Stuck – How The Developmental Model Helps You
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As relationships grow and develop, we often see couples who have gotten stuck in a particular developmental stage. When you approach couples therapy from a developmental framework,
Tough Couple Challenge: Sparking the Desire for Change
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Here you are, preparing to meet with a couple who came to you seeking wisdom and guidance that will lead them to a closer, more supportive relationship.
Tough Couple Challenge: Do You Take On Too Much Responsibility?
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A few weeks ago, Dr. Peter Pearson and I were talking with fellow therapists about a pattern we’ve all fallen into at one time or another. Pete
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