Here is Your Additional Information on Collaborative Conversations
The Role of Differentiation in Collaborative Conversations Using the Initiator-Inquirer™ Exercise is a Powerful Way to Promote Differentiation. The first section below describes the exercise in language you could use with clients. The final section makes a few points for you, the therapist. The Initiator-Inquirer™ Exercise Differentiation of self is the ability to identify and […]
Joy, Resilience and Gratitude
How often do you talk to your couples about joy, resilience and gratitude? Three weeks in Africa taught me that I certainly don’t talk about these topics enough. I am on a Lufthansa flight flying back to my world after deliberately removing myself from it for the last 23 days. I have not seen clients […]
More on The Great Attachment Debate
We continue to review The Great Attachment Debate, a series of interviews published in Psychology Networker. I wrote about the first three experts in last month’s blog post. This time I will summarize the contributions of Dr. David Schnarch, Sue Johnson, and Dr. Alan Schore and invite readers to share their views. The next interview […]
The Great Attachment Debate
As you and my other loyal readers know, I am constantly looking for effective ways to integrate the best concepts from Attachment Theory, Differentiation Theory and Neuroscience into my couples work. As far back as 1995, I set up a live debate between Harville Hendrix, David Schnarch and myself on this topic. In my consultation […]
Lorie Teagno’s response to “The Great Attachment Debate”
I really enjoyed and felt enlivened by David Schnarch’s presentation and felt like a professional “prayer” was answered as I have struggled in the past decade with the direction couples therapy was going with the dominance of attachment, neurobiology and EFT focus as THE ANSWER, the ONE TRUE path to helping clients become whole, satisfied […]
Highlights from The Couples Conference 2011
The Couples Conference is always an exciting mix of experts presenting new ideas that stimulate thinking and discussion. This one was also deeply satisfying. At one point I found myself reflecting on how much has happened in the last 27 years. When Pete and I started The Couples Institute in 1984, we were warned by […]
Working to Build Attachment while Facilitating Differentiation
Last month I invited readers to list Attachment and Differentiation-based interventions in two different lists on the blog. A special thanks to those of you who shared your ideas. Developing a strong direction with a high probability of success in couples therapy often involves supporting the couple’s bond and simultaneously stressing differentiation. What does this […]
Integrating The Best of Attachment and Differentiation Theories
Another year has arrived. I will continue to write blogs and give you thoughts and transcripts. One of my aims for this year is to encourage more involvement on this blog from you, my readers. My online training groups have been using their blogs in stimulating discussions. I’d like you to jump in and do […]
Please List Attachment Based Interventions That You Use
I enjoy seeing an exchange of ideas here on the blog. I invite you to list attachment based interventions that you use. Here’s one to get us started: Constancy of Contact. Find one time each week that the couple will get together without discussing relationship problems. This can be a walk, a coffee date or […]
Please List Differentiation Based Interventions That You Use
I encourage you to get involved on this blog by writing your ideas. Let’s start a list of differentiation based interventions that readers use. I’ll write one to get us started: Do not accept vague, incomplete or passive answers to your questions. Take time to ask each partner to reflect inward and answer your questions.
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